While they say mother is the first and best teacher for the
child, there are certain things which only babies are blessed with and it's sad
that they outgrow amazing qualities like these when they grow up. Here are
those essential qualities my baby has taught me which remind us why it is best
to be have a baby's heart even after growing up:
1)
She knows Mom is best: it's
amazing to see how baby smells the scent of their mom and even without opening
her eyes she knows she is safe with her mom and calms down, all she needs is
the warmth of her mom. She taught me no matter who we are or have become, where
we are, how old we are, we all need that one person we can make our cold hands
warm and that person can be none other than our mom.
2)
Survival skills – she
startles when she is moved from side to side, grips your hand when you leave
her alone and knows exactly where to feed from. All this again with her eyes
closed. Agree, education makes you understand life from a different perspective
but for survival, all you need is yourself and your skills…..you can go have a
fancy degree or work your ass off for an admission in the world's most
prestigious school, for that would teach you science or art but not how to
survive, its something we need to learn by yourself and through experience.
3)
Try,
try harder – every day is a challenge for her, until she was 8months
old, she used to hit her forehead on the ground at least 20-30 times in day
while crawling and would lose balance, she cried her lungs out and would try it
again until one day, without even realising there she was sweeping the entire
park. Then it happened again when she put took first steps and again when she
climbed steps… she still tries really hard at many things… surprised why we
lose hope and give up when we get older…
4)
Smile,
Laugh, Giggle – A research found out that Babies laugh more than 300
times a day, whereas adults laugh less than 20 times a day. How amazing is
that? Their needs are basic, food, love and warmth. They don't care if
you had put them in a fancy moses or just on the floor..if they are
comfortable, they smile…. I wish our needs and expectations are that simple but
Nope, we complicate our lives, link every silly thing to other silly thing and
ponder over what went wrong than to just enjoy life as it comes. This reminds
me of a video where a guy explains how men's brain is compartmentalised and how
women's brain is …well…ZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzZZZzzzZZZzzz. lol. I must agree with him..
5)
If you need something, ask for it
– well, she does not ask explicitly yet but has other weapons to use…. She
needs milk, she cries…she needs food, she cries.. Anew toy, she cries ….it
feels wet-need a diaper change, she cries ….feeling dull-need a hug, she cries…feeling
cold-need a blanket, she cries …. Mind you, everything is not the same
cry…after a certain period of time, you will guess what that cry was for….its
amazing how babies even without a proper language tell us what they want and
even after having multiple languages and scripts we don't express ourselves to
the ones we love. It's time we get vocal. The clearer we are in our thoughts,
the simpler our lives would get.
6)
Love has no language – she
cannot say a phrase completely but the best and most meaningful conversations I
had which left me completely mesmerised are the ones that I had with her and
that is no exaggeration….at times when life feels less than ordinary, her
re-assuring hands held mine almost guiding me through tough times, as though
she knows I am upset and I need her…she knows when to give the warmest hugs and
sweetest kisses… it's a gift which only babies can give and one should be lucky
to live that moment…..she is my guardian angel
7)
Absolutely no ego- after
being told off for dumping the flour on the floor or throwing mobile phone out
of the balcony or for whacking the yoga instructor on the TV with a shoe, she
would cry, hide in a small corner and then wait for you to smile and when she
sees even a little bit of positive curve coming up on your lips, she would run
at 100mph and jump on to your lap and shower you with kisses…. All she needs is
me and she has no ego accepting it… I need to learn that from her, its ok to
fight, but it's also essential to give up on fights and just let it go…just
kind of pure unadulterated love, only a baby can give!
8)
Be at her best no matter what she is on –
be it a flowy princess kind gown, or vest and brief or a nappy or just being
naked (this I call the 'happy dress')….she just does not care what she is on as
long as she is comfortable in it…. with a hat, with any other accessory, she
just rocks anything she wears because she just simply does not care unlike us….
We try n different things product and worry if this suits us or the other one
was better when all the while that mattered is you! Not your costly make-up or
your stupid dress…. Those who like you will like you anyway and those who just
say you look great/terrible in that dress don't really care the next minute
they passed on that comment…
9)
Trust the one you are with completely –
she likes these up in the air games, she wants her dad to throw her up and she
would giggle and giggle even more when she alights, absolutely no fear coz she
trusts that her father has her back and would never let her down…. … such blind
trust is essential for any relationship, the sense of belonging and trust that
the other person will never let us down when we fall….this one is tricky
though, I am not saying about trusting the person you think you have, I am
talking about the having the person you can trust….
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